Day Seven – Respect for the interdependent web of all existence of which we are a part.
There is a theory in polyamory, which I tend to align with. I do not have to have a relationship with my metamour, but I certainly have a relationship with the relationship between my partner and my metamour, no matter my preference.
Outside relationships impact me and my direct relationships. When my son has a disagreement with a teacher, I am likely to hear about it from one or both of them. My reaction will likely be based on my relationship with my son, and it will impact that relationship further. When my partner goes out and has a bad date with someone he has come to care about, when he comes home, I’ll be aware of the emotions. My empathy will be keyed into his needs, and how I react to him and his needs will impact my relationship with him, regardless of whether or not I have a friendship with his other partner.
You may not have a relationship with your partner’s partner’s partner… but you know what… each of those relationships has the potential to effect you… and your relationships have the potential to effect someone else on the other end of the line.
Remember that. Love means we are all connected, for good or ill, but it also means that no one is an island, no matter how much I might want to be from time to time.