From Questions to Answer: How will I monitor both my health and the health of my relationships? How will I deal with the need to limit my love? How will I handle the eventual dilemma between the forces of my heart and my calendar?
I have never been one to be good at defining my own limits. When I am in the throes of New Relationship Energy (NRE), head over heals for a new lover, I tend to throw caution to the wind go where ever the tide takes me, a frantic flight pattern of a stray balloon at the county fair. (Like how I mix all kinds of metaphors here? It’s symbolic of how my brain works when I am in NRE.)
I will rely on my other partners to keep me steady through this emotional whirlwind, and count on them to express their own needs and desires, so that I can work to keep my promises to them to have healthy and lasting relationships. Is that fair? Probably not.
So, how can I work to be better about this on my own, without expecting someone else to do the job of self-care for me?
I’m going to propose daily meditation and thrice-weekly workouts. This rule will go into effect for the start of 2014. This will allow me to take better care of myself, and when I take better care of myself, I tend to take better care of people I love, too.
I have generally done a form of “no thought” meditation in the past. Perhaps if a relationship’s energy is taking too much of my will-power control, I will focus on that, instead. Giving the energy a strict focus may allow myself to put it on the backburner for the rest of the day.
I may also bring tarot and oracle readings into the mix. I’m not necessarily one to believe that the cards dictate the future, but I do know that when I read the cards, focusing on an issue in my life, clarity does seem to strike.