Author Archives: SoManyHandles

About SoManyHandles

30-something female, intent on living life.

Mission Statements – The When

From Questions to Answer: When am I available for developing new relationships?  Am I looking for a one-night a month relationship?  Once a week?  Once a year? When will I re-evaluate the answers to all of the questions I have asked myself, … Continue reading

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Mission Statements – The Where

From Questions to Answer: Where am I willing to look for potential partners?  Am I willing to look in the kink scene?  Local?  Long-distance penpals? Where will I want my focus to be?  For me, this answer is perhaps the easiest.  My … Continue reading

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Mission Statements – The What

From Questions to Answer: What are my needs?  What type of relationship do I want?  Short-term, long-term, live-in, casual, friends-with-benefits?  A friend of mine, who identifies as polyamorous, and I are very different when it comes to this type of question. … Continue reading

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Mission Statements – The Who?

From Questions to Answer: “Who am I?  … What are the core pieces of me that will need to be respected as I form new relationships?”   I have spent the majority of my life trying to be who I … Continue reading

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Poly Mission Statements – Questions to answer

I am polyamorous, and that puts a lot on my shoulders, in terms of ensuring that I am living an ethical, openly loving life.  In order to be ethical, I must first ask myself some difficult questions.  Here’s a start … Continue reading

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Mission Statements – The Why

At some point in everyone’s life, the individual is faced with the question of “why?” (Sometimes, it happens more than once, especially if you live with a 2 year old.) For me, this has happened many, many times (and yes, … Continue reading

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Chalica – Day Seven

Day Seven – Respect for the interdependent web of all existence of which we are a part. There is a theory in polyamory, which I tend to align with.  I do not have to have a relationship with my metamour, but … Continue reading

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Chalica – Day Six

Day Six – The goal of world community with peace, liberty, and justice for all. In my years as identifying as polyamorous, I have known there was a need for a community of like-minded individuals.  For that reason, my partner and … Continue reading

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Chalica – Day Five

Day Five – The right of conscience and the use of the democratic process within our congregations and in society at large. Another way to say this Principle would be to simply say that everyone deserves a voice. Finally, we get … Continue reading

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Chalica – Day Four

Day Four – A free and responsible search for truth and meaning. Polyamory is a form of ethical non-monogamy.  Non-monogamy can easily be seen as a form of freedom.  Ethical behavior is responsible. Truth and meaning… well, those need to be … Continue reading

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