Author Archives: SoManyHandles

About SoManyHandles

30-something female, intent on living life.

Resolutions for Mind, Body, & Spirit

I looked through my facebook Year in Review this morning for 2013, and the basic version of my resolutions stands out: “Accept and be grateful for the past which has helped to define me. Breathe and be grateful for my … Continue reading

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Mission Statements – The How

From Questions to Answer: How will I monitor both my health and the health of my relationships? How will I deal with the need to limit my love?  How will I handle the eventual dilemma between the forces of my heart and … Continue reading

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The Responsibility to Say, “I would prefer not to.”

I was recently a part of a dialog between numerous people, the catalyst of which was a woman who expressed her discomfort at a recent convention, in which she received unwanted attention.  She felt uncomfortable given the situation, and she … Continue reading

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Mission Statements – The When

From Questions to Answer: When am I available for developing new relationships?  Am I looking for a one-night a month relationship?  Once a week?  Once a year? When will I re-evaluate the answers to all of the questions I have asked myself, … Continue reading

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Mission Statements – The Where

From Questions to Answer: Where am I willing to look for potential partners?  Am I willing to look in the kink scene?  Local?  Long-distance penpals? Where will I want my focus to be?  For me, this answer is perhaps the easiest.  My … Continue reading

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Mission Statements – The What

From Questions to Answer: What are my needs?  What type of relationship do I want?  Short-term, long-term, live-in, casual, friends-with-benefits?  A friend of mine, who identifies as polyamorous, and I are very different when it comes to this type of question. … Continue reading

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Mission Statements – The Who?

From Questions to Answer: “Who am I?  … What are the core pieces of me that will need to be respected as I form new relationships?”   I have spent the majority of my life trying to be who I … Continue reading

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